I recently went to the doctor and my aftercare summary and notes used HE and HIM throughout even those I have ALWAYS been SHE and HER in my medical records at this place for 20 years. When I asked why they used wrong pronouns for my sex (female), they said I did not check what "gender identity" I was in my electronic chart. I went to look at the form, and it does not even include a box for "sex" at all. My only choice would be to mark a gender "identity". My health and medical care needs to be based on my sex, not my gender (socially and culturally etc constructed) and certainly not how I identify myself according to gender stereotypes. The worst part of being referred to as the opposite sex, despite my long-term medical records and my visit in person, was that the automatic DEFAULT in the system was MALE. How is this progress for women? It takes us back 50-60 years, when it was stated that HE includes SHE, so language did not matter.
Did you give them a piece of your mind?